The Space Between: The Third Option

 Finding Freedom in the In-Between

Have you ever been stuck between two tough decisions—stay or go, yes or no, speak up or stay silent—and felt trapped because neither option felt right? We’ve all been there. But what if the problem isn’t the choices, but rather how we limit ourselves to just one or the other? What if the real issue is that we're only considering the options we think we have, not the ones that are hidden in plain sight?

When We Stop at Two Choices

How many of us find ourselves jumping to too many conclusions in life? We see something and automatically decide that there’s only a single version of reality. This quick judgment is often what keeps us from seeing alternatives. Rarely do we consider a third option because we’re either too busy contemplating the only choices we think we have, or we’ve already reacted to the experience without exploring what else might be possible.

But if you take a step back and pause for a moment, you’ll likely find a creative, unexpected path—a third option—that you never considered. It’s the route that might surprise you, the one that you wouldn’t have even thought of. And often, that’s the best option for you—the one that changes the outcome because you chose it over the more familiar choices.

This brings us to an important point: There is always that third option, well, it's more than three options. Don’t think for a second you’re bound to only one choice. If you believe that you are, then you are—and that's why life often feels like it repeats itself. You’re continually choosing the same path, over and over again, because you haven’t realized that other paths exist.

Take a moment to reflect on how often we're pushed into binary choices. Whether it's politics handing you a Red pill or a Blue pill, or forcing yourself to fit in or be excluded we’re constantly faced with options that seem limited. But the truth is, there are always options that exist outside of these pre-defined parameters. The problem is that we’ve been trained to believe the two choices presented to us are all there is.

Final Thought

In fact, every binary decision is just a pre-chewed menu. The third option? That’s the kitchen—the place where you can cook up something entirely new, something that isn’t even on the menu. It’s where you get to create what’s never been imagined before. So, next time you feel stuck between two choices, pause and ask yourself: “What if neither A nor B is right? 

What’s the wild card, the unexpected option that could lead to a game-changing outcome?” You might just find that the best option has been waiting in the space between all along.